Let’s Talk About DARVO
July 20, 2022
October 9, 2018October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Here are some signs, res...
Domestic violence has remained a pervasive but seemingly quiet issue in our society.
Reports from the St. Petersburg Police Department said there have been at least 11 lives taken in the Tampa Bay area due to acts of domestic violence in just the past week.
That is a startling, but telling number about the enormity of the issue that many professionals are now calling an epidemic.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Community Action Stops Abuse (CASA) is working with St. Pete police to address concerns and provide resources for domestic violence victims.
Lariana Forsythe, a spokesperson for CASA, said while there are silent signs look for in cases of domestic violence abuse, every abuse case is different.
Some of the signs to look for:
Isolation from friends which is sometimes seemingly innocent over time, but leads to other relationships becoming diminished.
The victim handling finances independently and not giving the abuser access
Extreme jealousy or possessiveness on the abuser’s part
The abuser may have an interest in guns
The abuser may show disrespect towards discussion of sexual abuse
The abuser blaming partners for a lot of things
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“Something that makes you say, hey, this doesn’t look or seem right,” Forsythe said.
Other things to be mindful of in terms of domestic violence:
The abuser can still seem like an amazing individual – everyone’s favorite person at an outing, which is how they can often get away with the abuse.
The victim may feel it really is their fault. The abusers tend to be master manipulators. It’s about power and control, and the abuser controlling the victim.
Domestic violence usually happens gradually and is not an overnight process. It can take time to see real warning signs of domestic violence.
Forsythe also mentioned that a good deal of domestic violence abuse victims don’t realize they’re a victim. Domestic violence can take time to develop in a relationship and can happen once an abuser feels as though they have lost control over the victim.
“So many victims would never think they’re in a domestic violence situation,” Forsythe added. “They don’t understand what they’re experiencing is domestic violence. They think of it as things you do to compromise. And then you end up letting it go too far, and you lose perspective of what’s healthy in a relationship.”
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